What happens when the rules, roles, and survival tools that once carried you stop working?

In this first WTF? Midlife episode of Season 2, Chrissie Morgan and her longtime best friend and co-host, Marva Silva, get real about the identities that no longer fit.  From people pleasing to over-functioning, from co-dependency to toxic productivity, they explore the grief of letting go, the discomfort of sitting in truth, and the freedom that rises when you finally stop surviving and start living.

You'll be invited into a raw, funny, and deeply honest conversation about the in-between space– where the old no longer works, the new hasn't arrived yet, and the work is simply pausing long enough to ask: What's true for me now?

"Just because it worked before doesn't mean it still serves you.  Midlife isn't a crisis – it's clarity trying to emerge."

You'll Learn:

• Why survival patterns eventually break down and stop serving you
• How codependency hides in the desire to be liked or needed
• Why letting go feels like loss before it feels like freedom
• How to tell the difference between a tweakable habit and one that must go
• The role of pause and stillness in rebuilding truthfully

Key Takeaways:

• Just because it worked before doesn't mean it still serves you
• People pleasing often hides a deeper need to be needed
• Letting go feels like loss before it feels like freedom
• Boundaries only hold when rooted in truth, not survival
• Midlife isn't a crisis – it's clarity trying to emerge

Timestamps:

00:00 – What Used to Work: Survival Roles and Old Identities

01:39 – People Pleasing vs. The Need to Be Needed

06:55 – Choosing vs. Pleasing: Why the Pause Matters

11:45 – The Hidden Face of Codependency

17:19 – Childhood Survival Patterns in Adulthood

20:16 – Not Unhappy vs. Happy

23:11 – Grief, Regret, and the "Snack Incident" Aha Moment

29:23 – Redefining Abundance and Toxic Productivity

34:19 – Freedom, Faith, and Breaking Old Chains

41:34 – Awareness, Practice, and Rebuilding Truth

53:33 – Final Reflection: What No Longer Serves You?

 

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